Mum, Dad just broke the private rule..

This post isn't an easy read or very funny. It contains a meaty issue, a paranoid woman who's sometimes on the edge of running away to an Amish village and bringing her kids up in a 'safe' place, and a mental woman in toys r us.

All this thinking started in my head a few days ago, after a certain conversation- the one below- and i wanted to put this out there, to see what people think, to gather advice from other parents. But mainly for someone to say i am not alone.
 

"Mum, Dad just broke the private rule"
Me: What do you mean love? What private rule?
Bobby: "He just touched my bum".

I had 3 initial responses to this. My first was what the chuff is the private rule? Secondly i just wanted to laugh, that it was his dad that had broken the Private rule. Thirdly i was relieved. Relived that what i had been saying to him was going in.

We've been having issues recently, we're trying to teach our son who has no concept of privacy that his "bits" are his bits. That they are private, they are his and no the whole of Morrisons don't want to see them.
 
This is a subject that i think is close to my heart. I worry about bad things happening to my kids. When i say bad things i mean bad things by bad people. We teach our children that there is no such thing as monsters. Yet i know differently. For a fact. There are actual monsters in this world.  Its such a difficult subject to write about, i think because its such a horrific thing. I choose not to think about it, but just because i choose not to think about it,it doesn't mean that its not an issue. I'm not sure what to teach my kids about paedophiles. urgh i cant believe i wrote that word. Obviously i don't want to bring them up to fear people but i think there should be a certain amount of 'stranger danger'.

I read articles about victims and i think how can i stop this happening to my child. When they were both small i could keep them so i was always watching them but now they are getting older I'm not sure i can.

We are staying on a caravan site and i don't like Bobby playing in between the caravans, he ask why and i tell him its because i want him to play where i or his dad can see him. His dad is much more relaxed than me, i want him to be able to roam free too but all i think about is we don't know who is in those caravans. I start to get a bit panicky and make a new rule that the kids can only play on the decking which is around our caravan. I know in my heart of hearts that this restriction has a shelf life. I cant keep my children so close to me all their lives.Nor do i want too. I don't want them to grow up in fear but i want them to grow up empowered.

Also I'm aware of something someone professional told me recently. When you suffer from a type of trauma, and are faced with everyday situations which may trigger a memory of your experience then you may not be able to deal with it in a rational way because a chemical is released in the front of your brain which causes you to panic and you cant see past this situation without relating back to the trauma.Therefor you cant act or think rationally. Or how you would think or act normally. I'm not sure of all the science in this or biology for that matter, I'm just going on what a trusted friend has told me. Plus it makes sense to me. So when i think of how i acted like a mental woman when we lost Bobby in toys r us for a few minutes, i was screaming his name and shouting at people that id lost my son (those poor people!!), It now makes sense to me that all i could think was that someone was walking out the door with him.


Im writing this and thinking "whats the point in sitting here, bringing all these feelings up, no bodys going to want to read this anyway beacuse it will make them feel uncomfortable. I feel uncomfortable writing it. I feel vulnerable writing this. No one likes to feel vulnerable. Im sat here at my dads caravan, One of my kids is napping and the other is out walking with his dad, so im putting this post out there. What i want to know is how do other people, parents, grandparents feel about this. do you worry too? Am i on my own in this?

I'm sorry that this post is so rambled. I've hovered over the post button with this post more than any other but this is a bit of an issue for me and i want to know what other people do, what do you teach your kids about strangers or appropriate privacy?  I'm going to link this post to my face book but if you'd rather not comment as that's too public,please message me.

Thank you for reading, Lucy x

Paddling..

Today we stopped by a tiny village called Hutton-le-hoe. There was much confusion of the name as our very yorkshire caravan neighbour recommended it but we though it was Huttonly hole.

It had this gorgeous little stream running through it so we thought it would be rude not to have a little paddle. Here are some photos of us, mainly trying to control George as he was like an absolute nutter trying to race across it,throw himself in and was shouting BAFFF at the top of his lungs,it was VERY slippy! I've no idea how he didn't fall. Bobby got all 'marine biologist' on us and spent most of the time taking water samples(!!).
George also threw his shoe down stream. That had to be my highlight..

Ten on Tuesday, Holiday edition..

1. George is officially one of those kids which, when you let go of their hand they shoot off at 100 miles an hour, in which ever direction they fancy.

2. I am officially one of those mothers who you see flying after her lunatic child.

3. How do people actually manage with more than 2 children? I mean we've got 2 adults and 2 hands so it seems to me that it's obvious how many children we should have. Apart from the longing for a huge family, children running around everywhere, living in a general mad house and wanting my kids to have as many siblings I have.. Hmmm that's the problem.

3. We are on holiday! Huzzah! Thank you God for my dad and his amazing mobile home (caravan) in the best location.

4. The further I go into my motherhood journey the more It's dawning on me how paranoid I am. I worry if my kids go out of my sight for more than a few seconds. I know it's ok even appropriate with George, but Bobby is nearly 5 now.. Does anyone else with blogs worry about wierdos on the internet too? Or am i alone in my paranoia???

5. My brother has spent a good year being operations manager for beacons festival. It was last weekend and he put
us on the guest list. It was brilliant, I was and am very proud.

6. We are going to the seaside tomorrow. Very excited. Then York on Friday. Love holidays.

7. Today George ran at full speed through a cafe straight to the counter, behind the counter and through the kitchens. I was mortified. Every single eye was on me as i did the walk of shame back through the cafe. Every single one.

8. My cousin got married on Friday, it was brilliant. Maaaan my family know how to party. Altogether now.. NEEEEVVEERR FORGET WHERE YOU'VE COME HERE FROM.. It's safe to say we had an absolute ball.

9. If you call your child some sort of posh (poncy, ridiculous) name and you come to Castle Howard for an expensive day out (we have a annual pass ((free obv!)) ) that's fine, I will try really hard not to judge you. But please don't judge my kids. Ever. They are kicking off in the cafe because their hungry, because they've been running around like mad men in the adventure play ground. They have mucky faces because, well same as above. And finally they leg it into a cafe kitchen because, well I'm not too sure but please don't judge me for it.

10. This Ten on Tuesday is created using a blogger app on my iPhone. Excited much. Who knew?!

Ps please ignore my horrendous spelling. I'm not sure how to spell check on my app..

Camping. The photo edition..

Here's a few cheeky photos I took of us camping. We went to a church confrence called New Wine. It was great, I actually really enjoyed camping which totally surprised me! I'm more of a stay in a bed kinda girl..